Presented by the Founder of “The SECRET to The Beautiful You” STARR Shephard, MS
What mysterious, immortal quest lies within the human soul that would drive humanity worldwide to spend billions of dollars on adding years to life and life to years? What inner vision of the fountain of youth lies dormant waiting to be unleashed? What impact is the spa and wellness industry having and about to have on the course of human history? Could transforming the very paradigm of illness into one of wellness and stress into one of presence, change the future potential of humanity? Can we truly comprehend the significance and magnificence of such a serving industry? Isn’t it amazing the search for happiness and youthfulness in life? We shall look deeper to discover the love that the universe grants us through showing us a balanced perspective in life in terms of happiness which once we see the balance, aging becomes graceful, wellness becomes apparent, and smiles shine upon the beautiful faces that we all have day after day.
Do you ever think that happiness will be truly achieved? Do you ever sit down and write down the things that exist that you are happy for? At times we recognize the negatives and wonder where the positives are. We also compare our own success and love to someone else’s. In life we are granted the positives that we “need” vs. what we think we “want” via certain perceived negative experiences. For example, a family medical situation may seem overwhelming and ultimately a challenge that is hard for you to take on. Within a challenge such as this, there is a gift awaiting you to awaken to the lesson of bringing together family and a love to the person experiencing the medical challenge. Within the greatest challenges that you may be experiencing in life is the greatest blessing for your life now and for the future once you are grateful for what is occurring. The most amazing gratitude for life at times comes via the toughest moments we are faced with. Blessings are there for you, yet we must search deeply sometimes to receive the gift.
There is a synthesis of positive and negative energy that births energy and light in the universe. The principles of quantum physics demonstrate the vitality of life through the laws that equilibrate nature’s phenomenon.
A synthesis is defined as putting together different entities such as kindness and cruelty, happiness and sadness, peace and war, support and challenge, attraction and rejection, success and failure, wins and loses, closeness and distance, etc. As human beings are constantly humbled by the universal laws to attain centeredness and balance, these complimentary opposite traits are a necessity to allow us to achieve a humbled existence in who we are, what we do, and how we live authentically.
“There is a synchronicity of complimentary opposites existing in the essence of being human”
Are you seeking a lopsided illusion? Why is the self help industry a multi billion dollar industry? People from all over the world are seeking the keys to happiness, the tools for thinking positive, the search for the one side of life that is always giving to them exactly what they want.
Can you imagine if children never failed? As a child winning may seem wonderful, yet as they mature into a young adult, the reality of failure and challenge presents itself. As parents, to allow our children to fail and then figure out what to do better or different next time is one of the greatest mind tools for greatness that you can provide. It is the moment that counts that allows a lifetime of wisdom and love for how we have learned to be who we are. The strategies for becoming a functional self sufficient financially independent being, comes from perseverant action and thought that births love and wisdom for a lifetime of generations to come in your life. You are then the teacher to the student who appears. This is a service to the world and also a legacy.
As Thomas Aquinas, Einstein, Aristotle, Demartini and Stephen Hawking to name a few, state that there is a unique balance in the universe that allows for our energy as a whole to be humbled to humanity by recognizing the potential we have to actualize a dream through focus, intention and therefore toward our own action and fulfillment. To assist in the divine realm, we are the architects of our own existence. We create the life we love to live each day. Some of you may be thinking you love life exactly the way it is; others may think life will have to get better soon, and others give up on life. We all subconsciously create the situations we are in due to receiving more benefits than drawbacks to the current situation. It is only when the drawbacks out weigh the benefits or vice versa that we change. Our healthy balance in every area of our life is developed through our recognition of the support and challenge we receive in life.
There is a strength in a saying, "Put on the breastplate of God's love” (Pauline S. Clow, RScP and Cynthia Clair, Las Vegas Church)
Discovering your own magic within is the love that you deserve to gift yourself with each day. An exercise is recognizing your own light is to write yourself a Thank You note for the way that you love yourself and others in each area of life. You are an amazing individual. It is now time to recognize your own gift of living just the way you are!
“Believe in your true potential - live with vivid clarity - fulfill your inspiring mission and vision and definitely love what you do.” STARR
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We at times think that the grass is greener on the other side……“when in reality the grass you are on is designed by your own architectural mind and has placed you where you are via your own engineering within your own heart and mind” -STARR
Money Talks and Bullshit Walks…..as my grandmother shares in a humorous conversation about men and women.
The #1 NY Times Best Selling Book and movie called “The Secret” may be about the power of our intention and the law of attraction, yet some folks in life live with a Secret that is about a lover whom is their perceived lust, desire, yearning, perceived greatest destined sensual soul-mate or partner in life. However the name of the game in life is perception and what our actions are versus our words. So, in truth marriage is a perception and a title given by an supposed authority dictating a bond in life that has a low percentage of success in terms of abiding by the vows when our selfish desires become more eye opening than our hearts dedication. As researching the secrets of hidden passion shows, it is found that how the supposed best friend and life partner who shares amazing experiences in life in a marriage, becomes the one over time whom we are afraid to tell the truth that we met a friend of the opposite sex , or that we won cash in a gambling game of some kind to use for our own fun without the spouse knowing; the lies become part of the net that hold the family together, as distance is literally created by the lies which gradually spreads the net allowing life to begin falling through the holes versus keeping the contents all within.. The scenario is like an illness, it is not apparent until time and emotion create the destiny of the fullness or the emptiness of feeling with that person. Where the thoughts are, is what life evolves to become. As Earl Nightengale says, “What we think about, we bring about”.
Fear takes over by one not wanting to rock the foundation of the relationship that two people have built on a perceived level of trust. However this article is focused toward the woman in love with a married man. She suffers the stress in one form as the wife silently suffers in her own form. This gentleman, who has a life, yet fills voids with his new lust, desired time with the other woman, and loving mindful fulfillment with her indeed battles within himself in how to manage it all without giving anything up. This is natural and in life, every void is filled. When we love people for who they are, they become who we love versus how having expectations bring forth broken hearts because a broken heart is indeed an unfulfilled fantasy.
When the man loves the affair and is inspired by a woman in his life, he becomes more youthful, invigorated, and full of life that he thought was gone. You become fulfilled in a wild amazing loving feeling with him though he cannot be with you all of the time which makes yours and his life work as you two begin the journey of what you have together. When the wife has birthed his children, he feels attached to not want to be away from that family, though kids will always find their path and no matter what a parent does or does not do, children will always love their parents. There are blessings in the gifts that arise out of every single perceived change, challenge, and new life experience that can birth our greatest gifts in life.
Some women lose their identity due to a husbands developed wealth, allowing them to sit back and coast on the passivity and lifestyle of comfort, though the man gets bored with her, needs sexual fulfillment and mindful stimulation of exploring new and exciting venues and sites of life. One venue may be your beauty or inspirational mindset for him that is different than the familiar wife and her dictating to him which gets really old.
The wife may actually know of his affair, may know who or may not, though she does not want to have sex with him anymore and chooses to look the other way because she knows he will always come home and share what they do have together. She’d rather live off the comfort of established lifestyle than disrupt it when she doesn’t crave his sexuality at all anymore. When the woman he visits from time to time inspires him, makes him truly laugh, and becomes close to his heart enough to ravish a romantic flame between the two, life takes on a new dimension of Love. There is always a possibility that the man takes on a new life while showing respect and continued love for the family, yet the trade out of the woman in his life is a gift and a challenge simultaneously if this occurs for him. If they do separate, the wife may be relieved and can sit with her cut of wealth going to do what she loves, spend time with someone she wants to crave and make love to, as the husband moves forward without hidden secrets to grow in his confident walk with a woman he has found to share the endless journey of passion with. Every new beginning has its pains, though once we get on the path, the step out of the perceived comfort zone, there is always a blessing of growth, gratitude, and love.
Love is patient, Love is kind, though it does involve being able to walk through the door of challenge, stress, disagreement, cruelty and lies. Love is a balance of complimentary opposite feelings in life which are embraced by the one that we share our life with. Think about something in life that you have gone after. You can look back and know that it was not easy achieving. There is a passion for it yet when you want it so badly, you do whatever it takes to arrive there. You experience challenge, set backs, stops, blocks and obstacles that you must stay on track and strategize consistently to keep moving toward the dream. Once there, you are sought after for your minds mastery of the hard work that teaches others how to achieve their own desired destiny of loving the life that they live. Ever think “If there was nothing to stop you in your life from this moment on, and no one would get hurt and love you for living your truth, what would you do and who would you want to share the time with on a particular journey, or life journey?”
Yet Yes, he is married, and is the charming allure of attraction to your femininity.
He draws your mind as the Moon pulls the tides.
He is not available for you emotionally, yet provides a comfort and a passion to you when he can be there at his beck and call. Business of course has it’s priorities, yet the wife has total control of him. Know also he is not exactly there for the wife emotionally all of the time. Every single person is dictated by their sense of what is on their highest values in their life. If you don’t offer something according to someone’s values, they will not see you, or do business with you. Our values dictate our priorities and therefore our daily choices of where we go, who we see, what we decide and where we sleep.
The getting to know and share with this man you are in love and lust with is exciting, thrilling and a challenge that is lending you a gift for your life if you look close enough. You get the best of his personality vs. his reality of decisions, challenges, family matters, business, aches and pains etc. You know he is busy and dedicated to his life business, assets and therefore wife that relies on his assets not his ass being naked like you do. He also is a gift to you by providing you a space for your life to work without him for your own solitude which you are used to, and actually you subconsciously have created by your truth of your own hierarchy of privacy which you value. As he is at home with the wife he lives with who adores his assets, familiarity, refrainment from sex with him most of the time, but yet they have a reality of a life of their children or even grandchildren together, and most of all, you need to know that they share a friendship for life, a companionship of comfort, security, business, family traditions, and a love that may not include the greatest sex in his world or even honest communication…yet you fill that void and that is truly the purpose of your beauty, mindful stimulants to him and activity that tweaks his internal desire while he remains in a marriage with someone who doesn’t know him anymore for his new perspectives and heart felt moments for you carried in his heart.
Why you? If you ask yourself “Why Me”…just think for a second without emotion, which blinds you by the way! When you are in your business, or in a friendship situation or project that you are working on, you make it work and gain positive direction in solutions for the greater good of your goal, right? If you are asking “why me” to be in love or feeling incredible lust with a married man, you need to wake up and get real. Or get ready to be 10-20 yrs older and wake up alone, unless this comforts you. There is, Yes always a possibility of him leaving his wife, or her getting bold enough to leave him due to her own voids, yet you should as Oprah says “live your best life and love your life Now”…..with him if you can’t let go, or let go and fly. The heart indeed soars in love and I as the author of this article, know that when the heart Loves, life opens up new doorways, clears the sky, and births wisdom.
He will never leave his wife especially if he has assets unless you provide more benefits than drawbacks to his life in all areas. Family is a part of the seven area’s, yet the other six are still very much alive in terms of needing to be filled as well; this is why when so focused on family, the relationships falter due to our minds yearning to explore, to be loved, to have passionate sensuality, and provide an intimate time of conversations about our dreams, careers, retirement, travel, books, music, communication of one another’s truth of heart, etc. the stuff that dreams are made of lay within our hearts and once two hearts connect with respect of listening and loving with an honest open heart, Love Flourishes and allows life to soar ultimately for us within.
Kids will always love their parents no matter what they do or do not do. The parents do feel they let their kids down if they divorce. Kids already know the truth anyway, for our human intuition lives in the freedom and wisdom of our divine design with the four pillars of truth: we have gratitude and love of the heart, and certainty and presence of the mind .
As for the unmarried woman, you want to serve him and help protect his life if you really love him, while you get his attention when he is able to give it to you. On the contrary, some of you are out for his bank account or deep pockets to buy you things that will hang in your closet when you are old as you do nothing now of productivity for a future of financial independence of your own to have as a cushion later. Those of you wanting to sleep with Mr. Deep Pockets versus someone you Love will age ungracefully, ornery, and uninspired due to your feeling that your (depreciating asset) of current beauty to be something you think a man should pay for as your own feeling of entitlement. Be someone and then find who you want to love; Sex in the City’s author Candice Bushnell, in the movie, did have a great line among many, “Find in life something you have a passion for that is not a person first, then share your world and life with someone who values who you are beside them”.
Remember life is about fair trade in relationships, no matter what kind of relationship. You don’t get less or more with Mr. Married, and he doesn’t get more or less in the dynamic you two have created to share. It is perfection and what lays within the seemingly puzzling relationship, is a gift that is attempting you to awaken and recognize for your life to grow and evolve one way or another that you will be thankful for the experience.
You are a Mother and a Daughter figure to the married man. Know that there are two kinds of women: Mother figures who care and provide exactly what one desires, wants, and needs which by the way is serving the lowest level of Maslows hierarchy of human life – the highest level is when “we love to” not “need to”; then there are the Daughter’s who want, need, and desire from another which allows the married man to give, protect, serve, make feel good, feel desired, attractive, and loved. Either way, the Man is being served and has his cake and gets to eat it with the best icing in his world.
You may think that someday he could be yours, or no one will fill your heart like his. Just know that you know within that he already breaks your heart by the times at the spur of the moment when you think he is yours, his wife grasps the power of the day and instantly can delete your plans with him. It is exciting getting to see him and feel what you dream of having in your life. You may think the gift is his presence in your life to let you know you can actually feel love, emotion, sensually sexual, etc. In the real world my dear, the gift is your inner feeling of knowing he is married and this notion is the gift. This gift you are receiving through this experience of being with a married man is telling you to awaken to flourishing as a strong woman treating a married man in life as you would want a beautiful woman to treat your husband if you were married. Wow….yes just say it “Wow”! How about beginning to set this example for generations of strong women to come?
Understanding the hearts inspiration in life when not fully inspired with the life one lives tells why these situations occur. There is perfection in our human experience and those that come into our lives are gifts. Some may be deemed Forbidden Fruits of life, yet we know that story, and we know the gift as well.
“When we fill our day with low priority tasks, thoughts, and actions, lower valued things take over; when we fill our mind with high priority inspirational greater good tasks, causes, purpose, and clarity, our life is filled with inspiration, truth, and honor”.
“When in desperation, we do not act in inspiration”
In truth, “We are a part of the Animal Kingdom”….some say don’t lower yourself to this, yet we do have needs that fulfill us when our intellect wants to rest and if that person laying beside us at night is not geared into the animal behavior you desire, you probably have someone in mind who is.
As the Buddha illustrates, “the source of human suffering is the search for the unattainable”. If you feel you deserve and are a valuable individual of love, gratitude and wisdom in life, walk strongly loving “what is” and begin your life for you and for someone to admire you for who you are with dignity, loyalty, independence, and strength. It is time to awaken the side of you that you continue to bury which is slumbering within and most likely speaking loudly to your mind as your inner voice. When the voice and the vision on the inside become greater than your feelings and lustful desires on the outside, You Have begun to Master Your Life!! There is always a pain and a pleasure in life, yet it is your choice on the path of maturity and the reality of aging to how you will love to lead every day of your life.
Of course every void is filled, so your life will forever reap blessings of comforts and joys along with the challenges and pains that actually awaken us to our truth. Day by day we are creating our future, our lusts, our dreams, and who loves us and who we love completely.
“Unleash Your Passion in Life….Love “What Is” good for your mind, body, and soul” STARR
“Believe in your true potential - live with vivid clarity - fulfill your inspiring mission and vision and definitely love what you do.” STARR
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Today a reader, tomorrow a leader. ~ W. Fusselman ~
New Beginnings of Serving a Child’s Mind in 2008
How does one child that you encounter today have a meaningful experience as a result of meeting you today? Are you connecting to serve the world through our children in a purposeful evolution?
Go figure, a meaningful purpose in life!! All it takes is a beginning and therefore begin right now with www.ILoveaChild.com . Make a child the star of an environmental friendly and exciting story of an education in bettering the world we live in.
Loving wisdom is an amazing gift for a child to receive. Do you remember your first impression of an amazing person in your life? Who was it? Do you remember how that was one phase of life, then a new icon presented themselves to you to allow you to admire them for something that touched you for life? We evolve our admirations according to what we value at the time. Without a teacher or an inspiring person in our lives, one is void of the depth of knowledge and growth that life offers. Many of us have had someone throughout the course of our lives that has made an impact on our developing personality, our decisions, our career, who we love, who we don’t love, and the book and interests that we grasp hold of. We are seasoned by the soul of our own being. Our intuition is our guide from a higher spiritual purpose that knows where we belong in life. If we listen to it, we attract those things and people that help become the architects of our illuminated life path.
Being grateful once a day for those supportive and challenging moments we attract, is the only way to experience the balance and the truth of gratitude entering our soul. Our experiences will grant life lessons that can be essential to one's growth if we look deeply for the reason we received the gift of the experience. As we are blessed with every experience and person that we meet, and understand why we attracted that encounter, our blessings begin to be noticed and recognized by others. Recognized blessings also begin to add up and build a magnitude of gratitude. This magnitude strengthens our confidence in the clarity and purpose we put-forth in our lives. As we work hard to get lucky per say, our hard work of planning and organizing pays off.
One of my admired mentors stresses to me all of the time, that if you make a plan for 2 wks and then refine the plan into goals you can accomplish everyday, your organization will pay off in success, accomplishment and an abundance of rewards. Staying focused on the project may be more challenging than you think you can handle at times, though that is the magical ingredient that it takes to bring you across the border to success. At the border of chaos is where some of your most amazing and successful idea’s and decisions will be made. So stick in there and give it your all. Don’t settle for mediocrity yet add a little bit more time and emotion to your project and watch the abundant rewards begin to make their way into your life.
In my previous article’s with this magazine, I state “the amount of time and emotion placed into our lives on one thing or person will reap a worthwhile return”....however, the intermittent time and emotion dedicated to something or someone will only reap a glimpse of what could have been if we truly worked and dedicated purpose filled time and emotion toward the endeavor to then reap a worthwhile return, or even a life legacy. So spend time and invest your heart and soul in something you love. Life is magnificent if you can dedicate to something that makes a difference. Serving a child with a smile, a lesson of learning to READ (www.ILoveaChild.com - go to Wildfire Publishing link) and understanding you are blessing an individual with the greatest tool they could ever have asked for along with their health. You will be a model for any child you can give this gift to. And beyond that, it is the most wonderful and memorable gift you can share because the reward is seeing that child grow and become who they are due to the wisdom you planted into the heart of their mind.
As Wildfire Publishing introduces it’s inspiringly exciting book collection for children, you will see how you can take the first step in delivering the written word of literature in a fascinating learning and sharing experience with a child. You can view their site through STARR’s at www.ILoveaChild.com.
“I will share with you that a book ordered for my granddaughter arrived on my desk a moment ago. I have seen dozens of different books in the past few weeks but this time it was different, there was meaning, there was the same personal connection you get when you open a present from a close friend or family member and find a picture of your child or grandchild in it. It increased my feelings and understanding of how these books can impact people. A great insight.” ~ CEO, Wildfire Publishing
A child’s simple brilliance is at times the seed to an adult’s growth. Just as the adults growth is the seed to the brightly shining brilliance that a child holds within. I recently heard a friend of mine talking about a staff member who worked and cooked for them to look kind of undone in ways with scraggly hair etc….The son said “why did you hire that guy again”…The Father said to his Son, you can’t judge a book by its cover….the 12 yr old son said, “yes you can!!” The Father said, he was right!
Planning and Organizing our time is vital to the growth of all that we do each day in the ability for us to reach for the stars. When someone believes in us, they may say “Why reach for the stars when you can reach for the Moon?” When we believe in a child’s mind, we have at our fingertips the magic to bring forth the greatest gift of loving wisdom through teaching them to love to read books. Recently in education, the statement was made that many people will never pick up a book again outside of high school education. Can you imagine if you could encourage a child to love to read so much that they couldn’t wait to discover their interest and grasp the writings in books from many experts around the world.
Our global environment is the health of our generations to come. As we teach and inspire children’s minds through learning about the environment, we will begin to make an even larger difference in the magnitude of health to our planet.
Understand that our reach isn’t as far as it could be. We must have the gift of learning to read to further our knowledge each day with the greatest gift on earth for a life of loving evolution to accomplish all that our hearts desire. To Read, is to Love further in life the magic of what the mind can bring to our lives. A child’s greatest gift is the time and emotion of service given by someone that teaches them to read. An adults greatest gift is the love and gratitude another has for them due to their altruistic service of loving action.
ILOVEACHILD.COM is my gift to teaching and bringing loving wisdom to children. This site brings the amazing New Year 2008 Gift to a child’s life by those who care to make a difference. Wildfire Publishing via www.ILoveaChild.com brings the power of loving the written word of our language to the minds of children. Our children are the anchors of knowledge and care for the future of our global environment.
Blessings to your New Year Goals and being like NIKE......Just DO IT!!!! Follow your heart and Go for it.....”Get into the Game of Life.....” ~ STARR * Starr@ILoveaChild.com
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As a leading competitor since early childhood, Starr has known the thrills and challenges of being ahead of the competition. Such leadership has fueled her life as she has pursued her many inspiring dreams. Even her exceptional name has guided her destiny. STARR has experienced and shared her discipline, enthusiasm and focus to many audiences. As an athlete medaling in national and world competition, to now rising and competing as a social and fashion savvy adult and international professional speaker, she is once again making her world class marks. STARR earned her master's degree in marriage and family therapy with a minor in sports psychology from our Lady of the Lake in San Antonio. She now uses her experiences from athletic competitions and her studies of universal principles and human behavior/emotion, teach others how to live lives of excellence and balance. Starr’s mission presently is to inspire with her heartfelt words the minds of others so they may discover their own individual missions, visions, and dreams. Her ability to awaken in others a more purposeful and meaningful life has made her a modern leader and teacher in high demand. www.worldstarr.com For information on women’s seminars/events in attending or hosting, please email STARR@worldstarr.com.
